| While drunk, she let a friend of mine get in her pants for 2 minutes in a hot tub while I was inside the house, do I divorce? |
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Asked 1 year ago
by inkogn1to  United States |
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Married 5 years, together 7 - 2 daughters fulltime, but they are mine from a previous marriage (ages 11 and 19) she has accepted her female parent role fairly well, despite being 7 years younger than me. Smoker, social drinker, energetic, pragmatic and realistic except when it comes to women, lol.
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Little more complicated than that. Was she drunk? Are there kids? Have you tried to work it out?
edited to read:
Sorry, I read that as you were drunk.
General reply to all your similar posts.
Firstly you know if you should go for a divorce much more than we do, but since you asked, consider these points:-
* there are obviously problems with the relationship, but are there also good things? If so which one outweighs the other?
* kids?
* everything seems to come from her being drunk - try alcohol abuse therapy first, see if the bad behaviouar goes away with the booze.
* do you secretly enjoy seeing or thinking about your wife with others? Statistically quite a few men do. You could control her behaviour by going to swingers clubs together, and agreeing that all her extra-marital stuff is done with your consent.
Vote Down 2 years ago was the down the pants incident, 1 year ago was the feeling up incident and last week was the strip club incident with intermittent kissing mixed throughout. I know, I know, as I type this I see the patern myself. My real complaint is NOW that I've told her straight how it affects me, she says "sorry, didn't know it was hurting you" I say if you didn't know that already, then you don't think much of me and probably never will. We've built a lot and I hate to bring in the wrecking crew, but I don't see where I can ever trust her or worse, feel like she isn't behaving just because I asked her to - If you don't want to make me feel good, then why are we together? I've dealt with each incident individually as if it were isolated and the last time it would happen, but each event is slightly different enough to her apparently - I say disrespect of any shade is still disrespect.
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[1 point] 1 year ago by deleted user ReplyI am still waiting for the comments concerning your now ex-friend. Your anger should be taken out on him, not her, meaning if there's any ass kicking, it's with him. You're spending your life with her, not him...
Yeah, he was one of my closest friends (of 10 years mind you) I assumed we could get drunk together and no be in danger - I was wrong - he traded our friendship for 120 seconds of selfishness - but friends I can deal with loosing (my true ones still remain) But with her, it's supposed to be different, she is supposed to have my best interest at heart AT ALL TIMES. We only drink 6 or 8 times a year, but when we do, it is all out drunkeness for sure. She's so defensive when we talk about it, it's hard to get 100% of the details, but then again, can I really believe what she says after she did me wrong - everybody lies to cover their own ass. So I assume it's worse than she told me about, BUT what I really can't shake is the idea that I don't respect her anymore and don't want to fix this because she no longer seems worth it to me.
Nah, but I hope this isn't a repeatative thingy.
I hate to say it, but given the questions you posted - if true - you have a very big problem that requires some straight talk and action.
One thing for sure, get rid of that so-called friend.
It's been done - apparently it was long overdue. I thought he had my back, even thought I knew he was a pig to his wife by messing with other women, I never would have guessed he would have went after mine.
Your wife sounds like a slut and your friend doesn't sound like much of friend. I think it's pretty obvious what you need to do; your girls are old enough to understand...and that's what you should be worried about.
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[1 point] 1 year ago by deleted user ReplyTake pictures of her escapades and then put them on the internet.