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It's not unreasonable, it's a difference of opinion. I consider any kind of hitting or spanking beating, and like I said earlier, I don't support beating children.
That being said, again, my brother and I were never bear as children, and we were perfectly well behaved. At the very least, I see no need for it.
I disagree... I think that it was effective in deciplining me as a young boy. And my parents didnt beat me. But, they taught me to respect them and to know that there were punishments when I stepped out of line. I think that taught me to be a more responsible person in the end and a better citizen. Frankly, when I see children who have parents afraid to dicipline them, I can tell it is having bad effects (they become brats). Maybe some children turn out alright in the end.... Idk
I completely agree, that children have to be disciplined, but you really do not need to hit/beat/spank them to do so. it's just about putting a limit of punishment. if the "worst" punishment you show to your child is e.g shouting, than the child knows, that it went to far the moment you yell at him/her. if the "worst" punishment is e.g beating, than you can shout your lungs out, the child will know, that until it doesn't get hit, it is still in the "ok-zone". ... I'm not sure if I made clear what I mean, but I already wrote to much.. sorry. :-)
Its completely fine to write as much as you want. (I listen and consider). I agree, hitting and beating are never acceptable, but I differenciate spanking from that. I think (especially with young children) that is sometimes the most effective way to teach them that they crossed the line. But, I dont think yelling is appropriate either. I mean, yelling can be emotionally abusive as well, so one should be careful with that. I found spanking worked well on me until about age 5 or so. But then other punishments become better suited... like standing in the corner ... I hated that!
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[1 point] 4 years ago by deleted user ReplySometimes, try to use sparingly but the answer is yes
Nope.
spanking yes, beatings no.
That was entirely the point I was making to Afitz earlier. Spanking does not equal beating. Clearly you want to be reasonable.
It's not unreasonable, it's a difference of opinion. I consider any kind of hitting or spanking beating, and like I said earlier, I don't support beating children.
That being said, again, my brother and I were never bear as children, and we were perfectly well behaved. At the very least, I see no need for it.
It may make the parent feel better, but I doubt the kids learn anything from it.
I disagree... I think that it was effective in deciplining me as a young boy. And my parents didnt beat me. But, they taught me to respect them and to know that there were punishments when I stepped out of line. I think that taught me to be a more responsible person in the end and a better citizen. Frankly, when I see children who have parents afraid to dicipline them, I can tell it is having bad effects (they become brats). Maybe some children turn out alright in the end.... Idk
I completely agree, that children have to be disciplined, but you really do not need to hit/beat/spank them to do so. it's just about putting a limit of punishment. if the "worst" punishment you show to your child is e.g shouting, than the child knows, that it went to far the moment you yell at him/her. if the "worst" punishment is e.g beating, than you can shout your lungs out, the child will know, that until it doesn't get hit, it is still in the "ok-zone". ... I'm not sure if I made clear what I mean, but I already wrote to much.. sorry. :-)
Its completely fine to write as much as you want. (I listen and consider). I agree, hitting and beating are never acceptable, but I differenciate spanking from that. I think (especially with young children) that is sometimes the most effective way to teach them that they crossed the line. But, I dont think yelling is appropriate either. I mean, yelling can be emotionally abusive as well, so one should be careful with that. I found spanking worked well on me until about age 5 or so. But then other punishments become better suited... like standing in the corner ... I hated that!