| Is it okay for parents to spank their kids? |
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Asked 1 year ago
by chaleur  United States |
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I'm a Canadian citizen, but I live and work in the United States.
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Define "spank"
I agree. This is kind of general for an issue that can be serious. I don't believe in just spanking all the time for punishment, or anytime a child does something wrong. I think other methods such as time-outs should be used. But for blatant acts of defiance or something over the top, I have already spanked my child. And it wasn't that the spanking even really hurt, it was that it *wasn't* overused...so the thought of even *getting* spanked by me had an impact. It rarely had to be done. Because we had firm rules in place that my children understood, they didn't that often majorly misbehave. I also made sure with any punishment, they knew what they did and why they were being punished and that regardless, I still loved them, just not the action.
Exactly... when I remember spankings from when I was little, I remember them as hurting a lot worse than I realize they actually did. A lot of it was just that my mommy or daddy was so upset and, no way, I was getting punished! It's certainly not a cure-all, but as a "higher level" of punishment, it works quite well indeed. I and everyone else before me survived, anyway.
All i can say is that you look like a hypocrite when you tell your child not to hit you or the kids in the class, but then you turn around and hit him.
And if a time out doesn't work, and they cause issues with that, then maybe you should look at your parenting skills and not the kid. All i can say is, if parent A can raise a "perfect" child, then why can't you?
But don't get me wrong, i don't disapprove with child spanking [as in others doing it], who i am to tell someone how to raise there kid.
At 17 you don't have any kids or do you?
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[1 point] 1 year ago by deleted user ReplySo what if he does reap what he sowed? That doesn't make it right to hit a child.
IMO, if you parent properly, you never, ever, will have a reason to hit your child. If you do find a reason to hit your child, it's probably your own fault.
And for the record, I am a mother.
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[3 points] 1 year ago by deleted user ReplyAbsolutely
It was fine in my generation and we turned out okay for the most part. Now it's a social issue. Because of that, kids have social services phone numbers at the ready with speed dial on their cell phones to turn their parents in.
AMEN! I was able to spank mine. But not true anymore.
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[-3 points] 1 year ago by deleted user ReplyI did
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[-1 points] 1 year ago by deleted user ReplyOh, for goodness sakes. Getting swatted on the bum will cause permanent injury?! I don't think so! Interesting little fact for you- kids who were spanked usually end up being successful people who go to college and succeed in life and never (or at least rarely) get in trouble with the law. On the other hand, many kids who *weren't* spanked end up in prison. So you tell me- does parental punishment do good? The statistics seem to prove it does!
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[-1 points] 1 year ago by deleted user ReplyUm... as far as I can tell, you are not my mother or father. You do not have responsibility over me, and I do not have responsibility towards you. So your example is entirely irrelevant.
However, I will pretend that it was relevant and reply to it all the same. It's not about abusing or hitting someone, it's about a deserved punishment for something done wrong. And I don't mean that parents should be allowed to abuse their children or punch them. I simply meant that short-lived physical pain is a pretty good reminder that when you disobey, there are consequences.
Besides, a friend of mine pointed this out once, and I realized it myself later- most spankings really don't hurt that bad. The thing that I remember most vividly from my spankings was the fact that I got punished and I made my mommy and daddy upset. I remember it hurting a bit, but the pain wasn't what stopped me disobeying, it was simply that I didn't like punishment.
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