| Does your mom/or S.O. put pictures of ugly kids on your refrigerator just because they're "family" or "like family"? |
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Asked 17 days ago
by Chipmonk  United States |
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I'm short, cute, have four legs, but my real name isn't Alvin. I don't even sing.
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[1 point] 17 days ago byChipmonk, don't you have earthquakes where you live? Should the pictures fall off you could say it's a sign from above for the pictures to go for ever.
Why don't you demonstrate your friendly, understanding side by decorating the photos / frames with something big so that most of the faces are covered?
Show interest and ask for the newest photos, because the kids grew so much lately. The new pictures might be nicer. If not, ask in few months for new ones again and then again hoping, one day the kids might look less ugly to you.
The best is you make yourself believe those photos are from Halloween. Or even better: Ask for photos from the dear kids in their Halloween-customes. You might not see much of their faces and earn at the same time big plus points not only from your wife, but from the kid's mother as well. It that a possibility to ease your life?
Can't you convince your wife to hang the pictures close to her working area (her office, hobby room etc.) so that she can enjoy them more often or with whatever positive reasons you can come up with? The mother of the kids might like that idea when you sell it as a compliment to her and her kids.
Please let us know the happy end (hopefully) of the story. Frankly, I can't wait. Good luck, Chipmonk! :}
Hey, don't be so hard on your Mom, Chipmonk. It's not her fault you were an ugly kid, you're still her son.
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[1 point] 17 days ago byWhy don't you just get a divorce? You don't like your wife, and think everything is her fault, so give the woman a measure of peace and get the eff out of her life.
No kidding. All he does is fucking complain about her to strangers online.
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[2 points] 17 days ago byWhere the fuck did you get that idea? Sorry to break your heart little buddy. You have a strange concept of what "best friend" means.
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[1 point] 17 days ago byWow, whatever. I don't have any idea what you're talking about, that I did or said to give you the wrong idea, but yeah, misunderstanding is one word that comes to mind.
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So which one of you is pulling harder on the other ones leg?
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[1 point] 16 days ago byWe are? Is that another misunderstanding?
This time I don't agree with you, translate.
I believe, it's very important to talk about problems - they have to come out for the person to be able to "breath" again. Often it's just easier to talk to strangers or to someone you trust as a friend even though you never met that person "eye to eye" than to friends. Strangers can help just by listening or with advise while friends are not always open or don't want to be bothered, unless they are close friends. Did you ever experience that yourself? I did, even though I am very fortunate to have several close friends I can discuss everything with. To my big surprise it just came out to strangers. Besides, often strangers tell me their problems, and I am always listening, because I know how important it is just to talk. It's not unusual that, while talking / writing, someone finds his own solution to his problem(s). :)
Thanks IAET.
I find it useful to get other people's ideas. I used Usenet to "poll" people anonymously for many years. Then I discovered Ask500 and it works just as well, maybe better. :-)
I have oft been called a troll (on Usenet) but if I get one or two sincere replies then it was worth the heckling which I can easily overlook. :-)
My thanks to you, Chipmonk. Yes, I have read your reply to Gismo and agree with you fully. Yes, honesty, one of my golden rules, is most important. How else can anyone be helped? Are any of my suggestions (see above) are a solution for you?
I have never heart of "troll" and could not find it in any of my dictionaries. Never mind, it does not sound nice to me. Usenet is unknown to me as well. However, Chipmonk, please don't give up. If I can, I will always try to help you in an honest way - promise!
I wish you the very best and good luck. :)
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IAET, I seldom agree with him and you don't have to apologize to the lump if you don't agree, he'll just find something else to argue about later.
Where you see someone looking for guidance from strangers, I see a guy who goes on and on about all the things his wife does that annoy him to any Tom Dick or Harry that will listen. I think that's very disrespectful to his wife, and I don't have a lot of time for people like that.
If you think I am disrespectful to anyone that is only because maybe I did not explain things clearly enough online. People that know us well (for example her brother and her best girlfriend) understand our situation very well and often ask why I stay married. It is because I have hope for the future.
Maybe someday it will get better. We have been married almost 20 years. Her first two husbands were no where near as tolerant of her idiosyncrasies as I am. Her first husband stayed with her two years. Her second husband only six months. I bet you wouldn't last a year. :-)
P.S. Coming back here eleven days later to see if you agreed that you might not last a year with her, from the fact you haven't commented anymore leads me to believe my supposition is correct.
Don't criticize other people when you haven't walked in their shoes. :-)
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[2 points] 17 days ago byGot her brainwashed, huh?
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[1 point] 17 days ago bySee my comments to "Translate" above. :-)
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You are sooo sweet! Your barroom manners are showing!
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[2 points] 16 days ago byYou need to claim your rightful space on the fridge and fill it with pictures that you like ;-)
Good idea. :)