| Do you think it's bad for children to be adopted by gay parents? |
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Do you think it's bad for children to be adopted by gay parents?
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Asked 1 year ago
by Kauwgomboomballen  Belgium |
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Hi!
I'm writing an essay about gay adoption and the possible disadvantages for the children. Would you help me and vote please?
Thanks!
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Only people that should definitely not be able to adopt children are pedophiles. For the rest every couple should be tested for their abilities to be good parents, regardless if they are homosexual, heterosexual, bisexual, or even asexual.
yuh 's true. why do i have to pay 40$ to get a license for my dog. but any idiot can squeeze out and beat up their kids?
the criteria for being a parent should have nothing to do with sexual orientation. should people who like tomatoes not be allowed to adopt? is a brown person a better mom than a tall person? all stupid questions. so sad this is still up for debate in this day and age.
It would be impossible for an elected government to prohibit people making babies. For starters the government wouldn't last very long secondly enforcing such a law would be impossible.
It would be nice if we got more education in school about those things though.
i guess i was just pointing out that its hypocritical for people to judge whether or not a gay person is a fit parent when a violent criminal can have kids without the same scrutiny.
a 'parenting license' isn't a solution you're right. education IS the slow painful solution.
I know (and I agree), I just took it a step further, just in case some people here chose to misunderstand the concept.
In today's politically correct society it no longer matter if your parents are gay, straight, black, white, red, yellow, vegetarians, carnivores, socialists, fascists, capitalists, conservatives, liberals, catholic, muslim, jewish, hindu, baptist, mormon, lutheran, martian, venusian, or whatever. We're all just human beings, love each other, and we're one big happy family, so, why the heck would it matter?
My parents are both orangutans but, see?
I turned out normal. :-)
Just my personal opinion, but I think it is cruel for gay couples to adopt children.
I do not doubt they can be just as loving as a real couple, but you have to considr the impact on the child of real world attitudes, however unfortunate they may be.
Kids at school are very quick to pick on the kids who are different from the crowd, and "the kid with 2 dads" is going to be target number one.
Even in class, they are going to be embarrassed by stuff like "What do your mummy and daddy do for work little Johnny?"
and parents evenings will be a sod too.
...and it's so wonderful to ignore this mentality and play it off as if it was justified action to those children.[sarcasm]
Hypothetical situation that hold no real value: "Live in Orphan House(to Orphan House) or Adopted by a Gay couple?"
...but that was a fictional situation and anything is possible in hypothetical situations.
I couldn't disagree more with what you're saying. The only way that we can prevent the issues you describe from arising, is by collectively, as a society, de-mystify the whole idea of homosexuality. If children are taught from a very early age (obviously not in sexual detail) that men have relationships with men, women have relationships with women etc etc - then we would avoid the risk of giving the children in this case a 'stigma'. It has to be a joint responsibility - from media, politicians, schools and parents. More to the point - you're argument is in a sense irrelevant, as this IS going to happen - more and more in fact... So lets change attitudes now - instead of stoking fires.
I did not expect much agreement. As I said it was just a personal opinion. I remember how cruel kids could be at school, and how easy it was for everyone else to join in just to be part of the big group.
I have nothing against same sex partnerships.
My only concerns are for the kids.
You may think it is easy to stop kids from tormenting other kids, but that is fantasy, it happens all the while, and giving them an excuse on a silver platter is just plain cruel!
Sorry - but I think you're missing the point.
You are making a judgement that children and young people will somehow naturally, even instinctively 'bully' someone because that person might have same sex parents.
Whilst I take your point that children can be cruel - to suggest that they would be naturally cruel over this issue is as ludicrous as saying that they would bully someone because they wear the colour red all the time.
These are learned behaviours - and it's our responsibility as adults to challenge these 'learned' behaviours and in a sense 'unlearn' them as a society.
The very idea that gay parents having children would be cruel for the children, is in a way more damaging as a whole for kids, than any bullying that might take place! Surely - it's a circular logic that will not allow us to develop and progress.
No actually I do see your point, and theoretically it is an excellent one, however it is my expereince that when theory meets reality, logic flies out the window and reality wins.
Are you willing to take responsibility for those "first generation gay parented kids" suffering while you slowly convert public thinking for the benefit of future generations?
I am not.
Remember you are living in the same country that just a few years ago witnessed and angry mob march on the home of someone who someone remembered was a peadiatrician - thinking that that must be some form of pervert, not just a childrens doctor.
Your faith in society is a wonderful thing, and I'll admit I am old and cynical - but not without reason
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[3 points] 1 year ago by deleted user ReplyI don't share your confidence, even though I really hope you are roight for the kids sake.
so why punish a fit couple based on their irrelevant sexual orientation.
the responsibility to change this falls on ALL parents raise their kids with an open mind. in the grand scheme of things, i think good parenting could go a long way to solving global issues. the challenge is who decides what good parenting is?
Again, you are talking fantasy.
We know there are many things in society that should not happen, yet they do.
Child on child cruelty is one of them, and like muggings, poverty, and corrupt politicians it will not go away however much you wish it to.
And if everyone would have thought like you in the USA for example, 60 years ago, in that there's no point in trying to tackle such issues, because any hope of making these things 'go away' is 'fantasy' - would the USA have it's first black President now?
sure it sounds idealistic. if i wish it to go away, it won't.
if i raise a kid that is not a racist, homo-phobe, mugger or worse, a status quo politician, then i have made a small contribution.
That's true. I sincerely hope you succeed.