| A man thinks his snide comment was only a pebble, but the woman he directed it toward thinks she was hit by a boulder. |
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Asked 2 years ago
by Chipmonk  United States |
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About
Kinda squirrely; very opinionated; not always right; not always willing to admit to being not always right. :)
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I have found that snide comments are usually boulders that the hurler tells himself are "only" pebbles, so that he/she does not have to clean up their act.
Women can make snide remarks too, but a man will more often than not only see it as the pebble she meant him to see it as -- a man is very unlikely to consider a pebble a boulder.
And you just made my point.
I don't think you will ever get a man and a woman to agree on what constitutes a pebble and what constitutes a boulder.
Woman: How do these jeans look on me? Do they make my ass look fat?
Man: [long pause] Well, ...they look a tad snug. (thinking this comment was just a pebble)
Woman: dashes back to the dressing room... says to her friend.. He hated them! He said I look fat.
[Well, damn, I hit her with another boulder and I thought it was just a tiny pebble, oh, about as big as a grain of sand.)
What you are describing is not a "snide" comment (unless of course, you meant it to be, at which point you should have known what the reaction was going to be).
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[3 points] 2 years ago by deleted user ReplyI've been asked that question by women. You are saying they must watch too many sitcoms? Well, you may be onto something. :)
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[2 points] 2 years ago by deleted user ReplyI found the question in "Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars." If I don't "get it" then neither did best-selling author John Gray who elaborated on the concept in much more detail than I did.
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[2 points] 2 years ago by deleted user ReplyNope, 'didn't take any money found me. I found his audio book in the binary newsgroups. :-)
Since you seem to have a problem with the definition of snide, I have done your research for you.
Main Entry: snide
Pronunciation: \ˈsnīd\
Function: adjective
Etymology: origin unknown
Date: circa 1859
1 a : false, counterfeit b : practicing deception : dishonest <a snide merchant>
2 : unworthy of esteem : low <a snide trick>
3 : slyly disparaging : insinuating <snide remarks>
— snide·ly adverb
— snide·ness noun
Also found - "expression of contempt"
To make certain you understand the difference, I was a bit snide in the above commentary, but it was only a pebble, so I am sure you must feel better about it.
Of course, it would have been much nicer to phrase it this way:
Chip, I think you might be a little confused as to what you meant by the word "snide". Here is the definition:...you didn't really mean to show contempt, did you?
Now if the first demonstration is what you are referring to as "snide little pebbles", then you need to take a good hard look at what you are doing, because the only real reason to act in a snide manner is to show contempt, which is a huge indicator that a relationship is trouble. If she is simply blowing honesty out of proportion, such as taking offense to the second statement, that is another problem entirely, but is not an indication of your being snide, rather that she is insecure about something. Either way, if it is becoming detrimental to the relationship, counseling might be in order.
"Snide" can be understood to have many different (even contradictory) meanings. I think it was the right word to use. Maybe you just need a better dictionary? :)
http://onelook.com/?w=snide&ls=b
Ah, I see. You are deliberately missing the point. Why didn't you just say so and save us the trouble?
I marked ewe back up a point because you tried so hard and I'm just thickheaded. :)